My best friend online dating
"The co-founders wanted to create a really efficient way to meet people around you who you probably would have never met before."The "show me men versus women" option the app provides is "exactly what it says," Pambakian explains."We're not asking you to define what you're interested in." Yet I joined right in creating the user subtext."I was serious when I said I'm just looking for friends on my profile.
Tinder was the worst of them: All I saw were a couple of group shots (but which guy are you, Steve?
), ab selfies, and if I was really lucky, a suit shot.
That said, I was confident friendship was going to be different on the apps.
People would be chiller because the relationship stakes were lower. Still, I didn't want to play mind games with my future besties.
So I filled out my profiles honestly, noting in each I was not looking to date, "only make friends :)." This practice got trickier on more information-intensive apps—I literally responded to Coffee Meets Bagel's "I like it when my date…" query with a "doesn't want to date me. But Laurie Davis, author of and an online dating consultant, later told me that strategy was all wrong: Being direct was the kiss of death.
"If you're looking for friends, I would just not write anything about that until the very end if they ask you a question about it," she said. "On OKCupid, they ask you 'you should message me if…' and I would say something really casual there like, 'You think having a drink would be fun.' Use words like 'fun,' which is an indicator of more for social than anything else." She didn't have a lot of faith in my whole friend-getting scheme, really.
It was getting serious with one of my Tinder matches.
After a witty opener (he, having studied at Oxford, asked if I was British because I somehow looked it) and exchanging our jobs and educational background, we were discussing our favorite Delaware beach destination.
A woman's profile would show up on my Tinder, and I'd just stare at it.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating